Greetings valiant internet traveller. You must have journeyed far and wide to have ended up here. So let me quickly explain to you what here is.
In 2009, I acquired my first and only relationship. For excellent reasons it died in 2011. Since then I have been single and increasingly horrified at the prospects available to a strong independent woman over the age of 28 in urban India today.
I live in Delhi, a very large and diverse city, and yet it has been nearly impossible over the past almost four years to meet a single guy willing to go on a date. It might, of course, just be me. But Me is a rather enthu patani who likes to find patterns everywhere, so Me began to formulate all sorts of theories around dating for smart, educated, independent women over 28 in urban India. So when I stumbled upon 100 Dates of Summer, I was inspired to take the idea and run with it.
Here are the rules:
- A date is defined as going out and doing something one-on-one. This could be a meal, a drink, coffee, a play, a movie, a walk. This does not mean ‘hanging out’ in someone’s house, mine or yours.
- You must be single. I don’t care if your relationship is open or she doesn’t understand you and you’re staying for the kids, or whatever.
- Sex is off the table. This is about meeting and getting to know people.
- The date might lead to more, or it might not–that is not the goal. It’s just getting to know each other. However, should it lead to a second date, that date is excluded from the experiment. The goal after all is to see if there are fifty men I could go on one date with.
If you want a longer story, look in the sidebar, where you can find out my history, my theories and the problems I face. Otherwise, dive right in to the dates–I’d advise first dates before second–or you can see what a snarky bitch I can be and check out my Imaginary Letters to all the strange men who write to me.
*I have been told, balls a it’s reasonable timeframe. I think this is possibly true because really can I do more than 1 date a week? So OK, I’ll give myself till the end of June 2015.
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So the dating project ended in July 2015 (spoiler: it’s not good), and now I’m just writing about random shit.
How about we meet up first without any romantic intentions?
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who?
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Me? I am 32 year old guy, living in portugal. planning to visit india, 20 dec to 10 jan. i thought you seem to be an interesting person. i am not looking for a date, rather meeting someone with whom i can discuss life more deeply. want to know your motivations and what you are really searching for. a friendly discussion and sharing of thoughts. if you are free, we could meet over a coffee. before that couold connect over skype, watsapp, etc. you can leave me your number at my email.
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Aneesh thanks I guess? I don’t live in India anymore and if you want to chat feel free to email
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Would love to but cant find your email here. can you drop me a line: aneesh84 at gmail dot com with your watsapp/skype name so we can start a conversation. ;-) look forward to it.
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Hey, i want to get in touch with you plz drop ne a message in maheepkohli@gmail.com
my name is dhruv gupta…plz mail me
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hi,
i am super impressed that what you started as fifty dates has become a research paper worth many PhDs
regards,
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Hahaha what??
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i mean, your blog has become a goldmine of information on related topics. Great !!
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